online personals

Which online personals site is the best?

I keep hearing online personals are a great way to meet people. I guess it's changed from the idea that personals are last ditch efforts for socially inept people to not be an old made or lifelong bachelor. Eharmony promises to do what it can do find you mr/mrs. "right", yet there is a fair share of "hookup" sites which are probably just porn sites masked as personals. What are good free sites for meeting cool people?

I heard about dreammates and friendfinder but I am not sure how those work.. Which other ones are most recommended

I have tried Match and Yahoo with no succes, is there one better than those two. What about the best one where I don't have to pay?

So heres the deal. I'm a shy semi-antisocial computer geek that doesn't go out much (partialy by choice, and partialy cause I never really have anyone to go out with). I've been single now for a while, and am starting to get rather lonely. No, I'm not just looking for sex or a one night stand, I want a real relationship. I tend to do most of my looking for love online. Out of all the personals I've used, Yahoo was the best, but they charge money now (they used to be free). I wouldn't mind paying if I actualy met someone, but most of the time nobody ever responds to my ad and the people whos ads I respond to usualy just ignore my email (if I'm lucky I'll get a, "thanks, but no thanks." Being rejected sucks enough as is, and paying money to be rejected sucks even more. So I was curious if anyone could point me to any good free online personals. Right now I use the Myspace classifieds, Craigs List, and Match Doctor. I'd apreciate any imput on this one.